What’s going on WordPress family. It’s been a minute since I’ve been on here. I am just enjoying being a new homeowner. I have many stories to tell about my escapades and new neighbors. But for now this is just an update to let you guys know what’s going on. Me and Tareau of  thecouchsports.com made a video on the hidden messages of Get Out and it has been the most successful video I’ve ever made to date. I look forward to collaborating with him in the future. I want to thank him for being such a great co-host and guest. 

As you can see I have been trying to do some gardening. I purchased that dragon from a Pottery Shop and painted it myself. I recently read Native Son by Richard Wright. It is an exceptional book that I wish I would have read sooner. There is no place in the world like the WordPress family. As far as the LET project, things haven’t been moving along so perfect. Maybe it was because of my schedule and moving or maybe it was because a loss of Interest on the inmates part. I truly do not know what it is but I feel like it’s my fault that the project is failing.  I still have some ideas in the works but there is no guarantee with success. Like with anything in life it takes hard work, determination and perseverance.

I really hope that this podcast stuff takes off because I love doing it. With all of the recent events going on I have a lot of stuff to say, but I’m currently trying to figure out where to set up my recording booth. My daughter is running everywhere around the house, jumping in every room. She is excited about the new house and the freedom that comes along with it, so it becomes hard to record when your daughter is so excited. Lol. The MIL situation is still in play, and still making me miserable, but I’m dealing with it the best way possible. Tell me what’s been good with you guys.

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Pinching Myself.

Its finally said and done. I am officially a home owner, for whatever it is worth. This goes to show you that if I can get a damn house, pretty much any one can. I shouldn’t even be writing on a blog considering that I have to pack boxes soon. Most of this stuff in my apartment I plan on throwing away anyhow.

 

Things that I have learned that you can take from me:

1. If you are serious about getting a home someday, focus on putting your money to the side via savings account. Do not touch the savings account for 2 years or however long it takes you to get a decent amount of money saved up. My guess is at least 10k to start off. If you have a partner that you live with, preferably a husband or wife that you plan on spend 30 years with, add them on and bring their resources with you. The more help that you have, the better chances you have of getting a higher loan.
2. Get pre-qualified — This is very important before you even step in an open house and put in an offer. If you aren’t pre-qualified, you will most likely waste your time looking at a home in a neighborhood that you cannot reasonably afford. Pre-qualification gives you a ball park estimate of the price range you need to home search for. Now you can decide if you will choose a condo in a decent area, or a home in a bad area. You can decide whether you will travel further for better options in a far town, or decide to purchase a fixer-upper. If you are balling like the Golden State Warriors and have money up the ass, the world is yours.
3. Find a compatible real estate agent that can accommodate your schedule — I have already written at length about this, but yeah. Just do it. A bad agent will cost you a few homes. Ask if the agent is a seller or a buyers agent, most will tell you that they are both, but that is no acceptable answer. Make them commit to one straight answer. If you have a genuine buyers agent, you are in the game.
4. Look for Homes and BE VERY AGGRESSIVE– Ladies and gentleman, in this housing market it is a seller’s market. Buyers have little, if any power without liquid capital. Do not go searching for homes in open houses twiddling your thumbs if you half way like a home “But have to think about it”, NO. It does not work like this :

Trust me it doesn’t go down like this! Each house that you will go in will have multiple offers — sometimes even blind offers — before you can “think about it”, so do not play around if you like a house. Put in an offer as soon as possible, you can always change your mind if you find something else better.

1. Put in an offer — Go through the process of negotiations, hopefully you get your offer accepted. You will get turned down multiple times by cash offers, or offers with less contingencies or caveats that hold up the deal.
2. Offer accepted — Get pre-approved from whatever bank gives you the best deal. My opinion would be to ask the real estate agent to give a reference for a solid loan officer.
3. Get approved
4. Start Escrow and complete contingencies that were mutually agreed upon
5. Sign papers like crazy, almost like perusing an entire bible full of x_________ symbols
6. Wait for the underwriter to complete process
7. Wait some more, just because.
8. Ok, meet with notary to sign some more documents.
9. Wire funds and wait.
10. Documents recorded, you are now living the dream

Ask me if it’s worth it, I guess we’ll find out around tax season next year. But the expenses are much higher than renting. I will probably search for power saving hacks on pinterest, because everything costs.

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The Trump Inauguration Episode

 

Thanks to Tareau and David at https://thecouchsports.com, I’m inspired to start podcasting. I will incorporate podcasting weekly into my wordpress blog. I like what these guys did so much that I actually copied them. lol.

Anyhow, in this episode I introduce myself and give a little bit of background of me beyond the wordpress blog, and give my thoughts on: the Inauguration of Trump, Legacy of Obama, protests, and solutions for the black community during these 4 to possibly 8 years of Trump.

The duration of my podcast is 18 mins. Tell me what you guys think about it in the comment section. Don’t forget to subscribe to my soundcloud account also. Don’t be selfish, hit that share button with ya cronies if you felt this.

Inside Eddie’s Daydream #27

Good Lord, you cannot make this kind of stuff up. It has been Monday morning since I last talked to my  real estate agent and read him his ass. The conversation didn’t get anywhere at all, because this guy emailed me this morning with an interesting spin on the situation. He personally emailed us confirming that he didn’t do shit for the past two months, and has decided to hand our file(s) over to his agent that’s shown us property in the past two months. He had the unmitigated gall to label the email “Passing of the torch”. This guy is a complete douchebag of an agent. I want to report his ass to the board of Realtors, but my wife wants me to leave the pettiness behind. He only sent his so-called assistant agent a file that we received a counter offer on (“the kings palace”) and left out the other 3 offers we put in. No updates or follow up’s. This guy was fucking me over the whole time. I have another agent that I am flirting with who does everything we ask her to. I just want to leave the situation with the past real estate agent in the past and start over with a new clean slate, but I feel bad because the assistant never dogged me out and we actually loved the guy. This shit has me so jaded I don’t know what to do. Such an awkward ass quagmire to be in. Smh. 

No easy way, really.

Recently I seen news that Steve Harvey decided to sit down with Trump, despite originally being against him. Many people considered that as a ‘sell-out’move.

 

DL Hughley goes off about Steve Harvey, & others meeting with Donald Trump https://t.co/R06GHbUfwT pic.twitter.com/Tuk2ZoudlO

— Comedy Hype (@ComedyHype_) January 14, 2017

.@Tip shared his feelings on Kanye and Steve Harvey meeting with Trump. Thoughts? 🤔 pic.twitter.com/cD8FziYlae

— REVOLT TV (@RevoltTV) January 17, 2017

This meeting stirred a lot of disgust among black celebrities on social media. Especially since Steve Harvey has been on record of being against Trump. It looks like Steve Harvey flipped like a pancake.

Another thing, I cringe when people bring up the “WILLIE LYNCH SYNDROME”, which is a completely made up piece of paper that was found in the 1990’s. From what I researched, this theory is completely fabricated. I doubt slave masters adhered to this code. Question everything.

Steve Harvey says Trump introduced him to Ben Carson: "It was a successful meeting" https://t.co/UyqzPDTbGn

— NBC News (@NBCNews) January 13, 2017

Look I am going to keep it way too 100 with ya’ll. I am not opposed to Donald Trump meeting up with Steve Harvey. I don’t trust that Trump will do anything different in comparison to Obama. I have to ask myself that if Hillary Clinton met with Steve Harvey would this be such a big deal? I don’t think so. I know that Trump doesn’t have black people(s) best interest at bay, we can see that from the open white supremacists that he hired, but fuck it. He still is elected as the President of The United States of Amerikkka, i meant America. Trump is in control of the country, and it appears that as enigmatic as Donald Trump may be, he will at least pretend to listen to black peoples concerns. I am not co-signing Trump, but I know that he at least listened to one of my idols. Dr. Claud Anderson, author of Black Labor, White Wealth, has been in a legal fight against the USA for African American reparations. The Obama administration wouldn’t even listen to him, but the Trump administration did. I cannot pretend to know what Trump has in store. Trump is very unpredictable and impetuous, recently calling out Rep. John Lewis {civil rights luminary} on twitter. Hiring Jeff Sessions, and several other open white nationalists. It doesn’t appear that Pres-Elect Trump would listen to issues that impact our community beyond arresting more of us inside of the “inner-city”– which is a code word for ghetto black area. It appears however, that his actions show that he will attempt to listen.  I think many of us, especially black people who hold the democratic party as a shield that protects us from evil racist powers, see President Obama as a celebrity that accomplished the impossible feat. He was a bigger celebrity than many presidents before him. Once anyone black criticizes Obama, you get ostracized as a person who is a coon, or Uncle Tom. The fact remains that Obama is a little bit over-rated in the black community. If Obama was a white man, he would’ve never gotten the pass that he did when it came to issues of police brutality and corporate bailouts. He never held the bankers accountable for corruption, and sauntered and two stepped his swag into black peoples hearts. He is everything we want our sons and daughters to aspire to be, so we collectively never questioned him or his shortcomings at all. Many times he had to walk a tight-rope of not appearing too black, but being black enough to sing motown songs, and reference rap lyrics at formal events. I like how J. Cole speaks about this in his second verse of his newly released single. Starting at the 1:26 mark

 

I’m going off on a tangent to say, that I don’t see anything wrong with questioning a president’s motives, but let’s be fair in criticizing leadership. Many of these guys wouldn’t be as critical of Hillary Clinton as they are of Trump. Clinton and Trump may achieve the same goals, just in different approaches. Trump may choose to start implementing a law directly, while Clinton may choose to be discreet about it, distracting us with identity politics and popular celebrities. Politicians main objectives are to please the corporations that fund their campaign, not the people who vote for them. Hence, the reason you have super-pac’s that fund politicians to get bills put into law. The bottom line is the bottom line.

The Jig is up: House Hunting

 

I’ve tried to hide the fact that I am buying a home, but the f!@kery that we’ve been going through is too damn much. 

I don’t really know how I got here, but 10 offers later and no home, it’s been the pits. I am trying to be a rational man, but I just can’t at this point.

When my wife approached me about buying a home, I instantly stood behind her and got on board. We searched  for a bank that would pre-qualify and approve us and got that out of the way. Receiving the price range that we could afford, we went on the hunt for the best possible situation and home.

THE AGENT

I didn’t do my research when I picked my agent. I had no idea what the hell I was doing. Reading web articles, I decided to go with some guy who had a great amount of sales within the past year. When I talked to him, something felt off, but I decided to go along with it anyhow. We talked about each of our schedules and everything seemed fine. I looked at his ratings and this gentleman had nothing but 5 star ratings. In hindsight, I should’ve listened to my intuition instead of random fake reviews.  I have four more offers in with this guy. If these fail within the past week, I am moving the hell on.

TIP: When picking a real estate agent, use buyer/seller reviews accordingly. Make sure that you are dealing with an agent that is great at what you are looking for. If you are looking to sell a home, choose an agent that specializes in selling homes, especially in the area you live. If you are a buyer, choose an agent that not only specializes in your desired area, but also is in rhythm of your schedule. You can’t work graveyard shift and have an agent that only shows property at noon, when you may not be able to view properties until 4 p.m. on off days. Choose an agent that is flexible, don’t get caught up on sales unless you are a seller.

The HOMES

Home offer #1: This home was a probate sale. Probate sales can be done either through the court, or without the court. It means the owner has passed away, and the heirs or de facto owners want to sell the house by auction or standard sale. The listing agent that presents the property must legally state that the owner has passed away. When we saw this home, it was on a random weekday night that I happened to get off early. My wife and I met up at the location with one of our agent’s “team members” in his “group”.  Let’s call her Linda. Linda showed us the property and the condition of the house was murky at best. There was peeling paint, uneven floors, and an un-permitted back house that smelled like rotten marijuana. The carpet was awful, the rooms were decent, and the entrance of the garage was in an alley. I absolutely hated the house but loved the area, so we put in an offer. We put in three multiple counter offers and still lost, because we refused to pay more than what the house was worth. STRIKE ONE: I found out through a third party website that the house was pending before the real estate agent. The agent didn’t notify us of the property being sold to another party until two days later. Didn’t return our calls, until I called one of his “team members.” Pissed me the f**k off, but I didn’t want to make it a big deal.

Home offer #2: This home was also a probate sale that was being sold “as-is”. It fell out of escrow due to a multitude of factors: buyers got separated, buyers refused to split responsibility of repairs with seller, etc.  STRIKE TWO: We specifically told this guy to put in an offer that same night on this house. I sent an email to him and the group member that showed me the property, specifically telling him to put in the offer that SATURDAY. They had an open house that SUNDAY. On Monday morning, no more offers were accepted. My agent did not put in our offer that SUNDAY at minimum. He had to beg for them to accept our offer as a backup that MONDAY afternoon. I WAS PISSSSSST!!!! I was so pissed I let him know about it.

Home offer #3: This home was awkward as hell. Garage was almost bigger than the home itself. The house was crazy small, located on a main street, corner house, driveway not connected to driveway. Awkward to pull in, no dishwasher or space. No backyard or privacy, the home was overpriced and outside of the area we desired. This was a flipped home that felt unfinished. The agent actually negotiated a great deal with this house. They agreed to help on closing costs and were ready to make a deal with us. He did an excellent job, but this time we reneged and backed out of our offer. The house was not appealing at all. It probably is still for sale.

Home offer #4: This home was located in the perfect area, but was dated and ugly. It had floor heaters and possible water damage. The home was ideal, but had some issues. We actually cross qualified and damn near got our offer accepted at asking, but a cash buyer came in and offered 97 percent of asking without any contingencies (at the last second). We instantly got beat out and lost, cash is king, but the agent did a decent job.

Home offer #5: This home is in a sketchy area but the home and block was actually nice. It is what you would call a pocket block. A good block surrounded by a few bad streets with criminal activity. I liked this house enough to put in an offer, but didn’t want to commit to a house that we halfway liked. The house had multiple cash offers, and even blind offers, so we didn’t like our chances on this home beyond putting in an offer. Plus we were waiting on home offer #4. It was MEH!

Home offer #6: This home was one that was the closest of my intended area to move into. I still haven’t received word back on this home. We just know that the competition is deep and the likelihood is low, when there is too much competition. Allegedly we are going to find out tomorrow who gets the home, but the seller’s agent is a hard person to get in contact with. We our crossing our fingers, but expecting a no. This home is dated and has a retro 2000’s feel to it. I thought I was on the set of ‘Moesha’, but the backyard is huge and the driveway is private. I saw it alone and immediately put in an offer without hesitation, because I knew my wife would love it. We shall see.

Home offer #7: Beautiful home, pocket street like home offer #5, turn key and ready to go. We put in multiple offers and was one of the highest offers, but we refused to waive the appraisal contingency. I was like hell no, and they found a sucker who did waive his appraisal. We lost out on that one, and to keep it more gangster — they still are having open houses despite its pending status. We just shook our heads and moved on. We loved that they moved fast and didn’t stall, unlike Home offer #6.

Home offer #8: We saw this property and let the seller’s agent(s) know our interest immediately. This was a pocket block home that was renovated into a turn key, but had more potential that what was shown at open house. This offer is fresh and we are waiting on a response by the end of the week, or next Monday at the latest.

Home offer #9: This home is located in a non-desirable area, but the home is a got damn castle for a KING. I walked through the home and felt like nothing else outside mattered. Only thing that this house needed was a front gate, an electric powered swing gate and that’s it. This house was lit. We offered lower than the asking price, because we know people aren’t willing to move in that area. The home was sick, I could see my dogs roaming the property. Easy home to sell in the future also, something I couldn’t say about home offer #3. No response on this home yet.

Home offer #10: This home is a great location not far from home offer #1, but the wife checked it out alone and became hesitant because of a nosy neighbor. This home has multiple offers that are placed on the property and even our real estate agent doubts that we will be considered for this home.

 

I’m very frustrated at this point with the whole entire process, because I have pressure to find a home soon. My rental lease with my landlord is up, and they are hiking the price up exorbitantly high to coerce us into signing a 6 month to 1 year lease. They disfavor tenants who stay month to month, so I have a lot of pressure to make a deal happen. I am not too satisfied with my agent, because his communication is not great. All of the homes I’ve found on my own, he doesn’t send me any listings. My wife and I attend multiple open houses alone –then write him a long ass email report– and beg him to put in offers before the night ends. He has shown us 4 of the houses we’ve put offers on. He seems too busy at times and he rarely helps us on weekends. He avoids showing us properties on weekends and uses people on his team to show properties during the weekday. My wife gets to see the properties, but I don’t. When the weekend comes, those people that work on his team actually don’t work for him, they ASSIST him.  The one guy who does show us property has clients of his own that come before us. So when (more like if) we need to see properties on weekends, it feels like a hassle to ask our agent if we can see lock box properties that regular buyers don’t have access to. We got into a heated discussion today, and I kept it real. I told him that if I knew that he was this busy on weekends, then I would’ve chosen otherwise. I will give him until the duration of these four offers, and afterwards i’m done. These real estate agents are sharks who hunt for buyers who attend open houses without agents. They tell us bad things about our agent, and how they can do a better job. One guy promised us a house, only  if we left our agent out of the business transaction and did the deal straight up. I know its all bullshit and smoke, but the fact is I get irritated with not having an agent present. The seller’s agent treats you different without an agent, they turn into sleazy greasy salesmen without one. I told my agent that I don’t like defending a real estate agent who isn’t there.”It’s not my responsibility to defend you”. I hope a deal goes through, but I had to use my platform to vent. Thanks for taking time to read my drama.

Inside Eddie’s Daydream #26

What’s up guys?  I’m back again with the drama for your mama. The reason I chose this picture as the header is because I haven’t been updating you guys on the let project letters. As far as A.J., he sent me a couple letters talking about how so far he is very appreciative of all the books and letters I’ve sent him. He thinks that I am changing his life. The original letters have been destroyed by water being spilled on them. I told him about the programs that were available in prison and he says that he has already enrolled and graduated with a g.e.d. and a welding class certification. I sent him two more books during the x-mas/nye holiday;

Carter G. Woodson’s “The Mis-Education Of The Negro” is one of the most essential books for black people, or African-American’s. This book should be labeled as the “Black Bible Of Consciousness”. It is a book that not only confronts white supremacy, but reprimands brothers and sisters in the black community who fall victim to bourgeoisie ideology. Yes, you can be educated and misled. Hence, the proper term mis-education. This book was the first time I realized that you could have more degrees than an oven, but still be socially and subconsciously controlled by society’s standards. He predicts the pattern of black politicians and their behavior towards blacks.

This is an amazing book, and an amazing man. It is absolutely essential that A.J. reads this book.

Another book that I’ve sent is Michelle Alexander’s The New Jim Crow.

This book breaks down the entire prison system, from the beginning of slavery up to current times. I told him to take his time with these two books, because it is heavy material. This book was what gave me the inspiration to start this project of trying to curb jail recidivism. I’m for damned sure not a millionaire, but I am strapped with the knowledge that could change a person’s life. Why not use that information to uplift someone in need?

What’s crazy is that I received a new letter from an inmate named “Cory G”, here is the letter.

In so many words, he thinks the let project is an actual prisoner reform program that is funded by the government. He is interested, but doesn’t know how to move forward. The mistake of my introductory letter, is that my mission statement was too powerful. I am only one person, trying to help as many prisoners as I can. I will definitely help this brother, but the whole “can my homies get on also?” stuff is dead. That is why my project is a project, and not a program. The few chosen are the few selected for an amazing opportunity. 

 

 

 

A.J. Responds (12/03/16)

“Hey Eddie, 

    This is Adolphos,

I received your letter. You responded so quick, caught me off guard. I have already sent you a letter right before this one. I guess a second won’t hurt. I also sent a poem. I think you might like a lot. That’s the way I express myself. You said me getting chosen was extreme luck. I call it a blessing.

Eddie I feel like this moment to get my voice out there, also have somebody like you listening to me and understanding that it is not easy in here. In your letter you mention Malcolm X. That’s crazy because he is my role model. I have read all his books and speeches. I know what he is about and while I am not Muslim, I understand his views. 

(By any means necessary)

I got so much to say about prison, where do I start, I am currently in the hole. The police say I had a knife in my cell. I was in high desert, I still belong to that prison. You name it I’ve done it here e.g. riots, stabbings, got shot. I had it hard in prison. With gods blessings I will be out very soon, I don’t have life sentence.

Well I will let you go until the next time I got another poem I am working on and will share soon. I hope you can be that help I am looking for. (With respect Adolphos)

Please give me feedback on the poetry 

Thank you a lot ☺”

My response:

Male Homophobia in the Black community (rant)

It is no secret that there is some odd energy between black male homosexuals  and black cishet hetero-men. For the most part, hip-hop is a genre of music that is heavily misogynistic. We can all agree that hip-hop is a creation spawned by black culture. It wouldn’t be far fetched to say that there is a large influence of hip-hop in the urban and poor sections of black America. Modern black masculinity therefore is commonly associated with Hip-Hop. To understand the toxic relationship of black alpha-male men and black homosexuals in present-day, you must recognize the ideology of hip-hop and its role creating the modern black masculinity concept.

Many black homosexuals have a negative relationship with alpha or cishet men from the African diaspora. This is usually a result of being ostracized, assaulted, or teased during high school for being feminine in voice, gait, disposition, and so forth. In response, many young men in these situations resorted to befriending young black women. The young black woman represented sort of a maternal protector from many of these cishet alpha black men during conflict, some even willing to fight for the closeted (gay) friend. Socially these black women were mirrored images of their mothers, or sisters. Many gay black men tend to be closer to black women in friendship, in comparison to hetero-black men.

During this symbolic metaphorical sisterhood, the gay male would recognize the shortcomings and failures of many of his black female friends failed relationships. In short, it was usually the fault of hetero-black men. His play-sisters would almost always complain about the same issues many strong single black mothers would gripe about: “This nigga ain’t shit, He don’t wanna pay child support, He doesn’t respect me, He don’t take care of his kids,  He trifling, He stay going in and out of jail, He can’t never get his shit together”

With this in mind, the gay black man acknowledges these flaws as a fluid characteristic that is inseparable from black masculinity. This pattern of behavior demonstrated from cishet black men starting from childhood up into adulthood is problematic. Black masculinity as a whole, if not beta, is seen as toxic.
From a straight black male or cishet perspective, protecting your image and masculinity is necessary at all costs. Never let anyone violate your manhood, because in the end, all you have is your word and your balls. If you let another man emasculate you publicly, that is reason for violence to ensue. The worst insult that another cishet black man could hear is anything questioning his sexuality. Insults such as: “Nigga, you’s a bitch, you are a fag, you pussy…”

In hip-hop, his favorite artists taught him that ideology, directly or indirectly, and these lyrics have shaped his views on life. His entourage of brothers relate to these hip-hop artists and the way he feels. His circle “don’t hang with no gay dudes”, and his squad will not be taken lightly because of that.
Another avenue of masculinity is taught the traditional route. Being effeminate in any way is cause for scolding by men who are in the family tree. These could be uncles, cousins, brothers or fathers who see weakness or vulnerability in a male relative. For example, one child decides that he won’t fight back a local bully at school. Being soft, or not seeking retaliation for this physical assault, is cause for reprimanding. The older male relative when catching wind of the situation will usually respond aggressively like “Son, if you don’t go back and find that boy that did this to you, and kick his ass, I’m gonna kick your ass! We are Jackson (last name) men, we don’t play that shit!” 😠 

In weekly Sunday mass, he also is confronted by a religious leader who condemns homosexuality as a ticket to hell. To be a gay man, would be akin to suffer a punishment worst than death itself: an abomination to God. To believe in Christ, in the formal sense, is to denounce these “acts” as immoral. 

In short, the alpha black man  has been taught conventional masculinity. The homosexual black man has been shunned from all areas of black manhood. The gay man matures into adulthood with a caustic relationship towards alpha black men. The collective assaults and taunting during adolescence, boils to a head in adulthood. This is why I suspect many homosexual men are tightly bound to LGBTQ issues over race issues. The black homosexual men who are about racial discrimination, also conflate homosexual prejudice into the equation. “We can’t talk about white supremacy, unless we confront the bigotry of homophobia in the black community. They are ALL connected!”. Herein lies the reason for black feminists, who also may be (gay) lesbian and face similar quagmires in the black community, or black women who have been mistreated by black men, to confront alpha black masculinity as well as the fight against racism. This ideology is called “intersectionality”.

From these frustrations, the #BlackLivesMatter group arises and gets funded to become a digital revolution. By reading the #blacklivesmatter mission statement, it is apparent that this group is not solely a movement for hetero cishet black men. 

The #blacklivesmatter movement can be seen as anti-alpha black male. They are against traditional black marriage, and look to re-affirm queerness as true pro-blackness, not “toxic” black masculinity.

The real reason behind this movement is white feminism, and racist gay whites who don’t wish to associate homosexuality or feminism with minority struggles. Michael Sam, the first openly gay player to be drafted by the NFL, came out earlier this year in an interview, and spoke out against racism in the lgbt community. White feminism has always been mum on racially charged issues, often writing pieces on HUFFINGTON POST that have always been centered on sexism and politics. Many cishet black men have been the scapegoat of society. We are America’s largest problem, for some reason. We are the enemies of white men, white women, black men, and black women. The only safe haven of black manhood is in the barbershop. To be alpha male in this current environment, is to risk being labeled sexist or ignorant about the black woman’s struggle, or insensitive to the plight of homosexual black men.

I don’t deny the ignorance and toxic environment of cishet black masculinity. There is a lot of misconceptions of homosexuality, most notable is that it considered a choice. “You can’t be born gay! What kinda shit is that?!” or “I don’t agree with that lifestyle my nigga, I’m straight.” 

I don’t think we are born straight or gay. We honestly are just born and grow attracted to whomever we are attracted to. I happened to always have an affinity for females. My cousin who is an open gay man, has always been feminine. Most boys will grow up and like girls, but some boys just won’t. I played with teenage mutant ninja turtles and wrestling figures as a kid, some boys will play with dolls. It’s against my belief because I don’t feel like kids should be sexualized too young. A child’s mind is very impressionable at an early age. They aren’t fully capable of understanding sexuality at such a young age. A young boy may only wish to play with dolls because he is curious about a woman’s anatomy. A liberalized adult may interpret their son wanting to play with dolls the same way they would if a friend decided to reveal himself coming out of the closet. They may go into buying a child a dress and heels before he or she knows their abc’s. Give a child time to grow and decide what their identity is before convincing them its okay to be gay at 4 or 6 years old.

Here are a few examples:

I do believe that there is an agenda to make black men more docile. The new generation after me, are definitely part of a more feminine culture. The jeans young black men wear are so tight that their women’s clothes look baggy. Young Thug, a popular rapper, recently made history by breaking gender norms, wearing a dress on his album cover, despite incessantly flaunting guns and claiming heterosexuality. He constantly calls his homeboys ‘bae’ and uses homosexual behavior to confuse the masses and spread confusion among fans, which only promotes his name and music via gossip. This serves as free promotion to him, because nowadays money trumps integrity. 

In my humble opinion, there is no reason to have any animosity towards homosexual men. Number one, I got love for them if they are black, and secondly we need to assimilate against the bigger issue, which is white supremacy. There is no enemy or issue bigger than that. If you don’t realize that first and foremost, than we can’t agree on anything else.